How Soon is Now?

Dear Friends,

They say life happens when you’re making plans.  I planned to write/blog more over the past year, but that didn’t happen. To say I was preoccupied is a bit of an understatement.  Many of you know what’s been going on, but some of you don’t.  So what was I doing instead of writing? Let’s take a look at the checklist:

Going to exotic places like Blue Ridge, Denver, Jamaica, Dallas, Speedway USA, and Buc-ee’s? Check

Hoarding Bourbon? Check

Visiting one of those fancy jewelry stores? Check

Proposing to my girlfriend? Check

What said proposal might have looked like

Getting promoted at work?  Check

Ace was just as surprised as you were

Planning a destination wedding in less than 90 days? Check

Sell my home for the last 15 years? Check

Getting married in Jamaica? In 22 days.

Celebrating with everyone else? In 44 days

As you can see from my list, I’ve been busy. Everything I just listed has happened since late January. There are great stories behind each one of these checkmarks, but I just haven’t found the time nor energy to sit down and write about them. If my stories about walking around for hours on end didn’t convince you that I was a glutton for punishment, maybe this list will.  I do not recommend doing “all the things” at once, but I wouldn’t trade my experiences for anything. So let me try and answer some questions I’ve been getting asked lately.

Why a destination wedding?

The idea of a destination wedding was born out of the idea of keeping things simple.  My fiancé, Lora, did not want a big wedding and neither did I.  Two of our dear friends had a destination wedding in Jamaica which we attended, and it sold us on the idea.  We immediately booked our wedding less than 90 days out back in Jamaica. To our very pleasant surprise, 18 of our friends and family will be joining us in Jamaica. We are getting married on July 22, at 3 p.m. at the over the water chapel at Sandals, Ochos Rios, Jamaica. 

The wedding chapel in question

We are currently working on ways for our friends and family back at home to witness the event live. Who doesn’t love a zoom meeting?

90 Days, that seems quick, is there something we should know?

Yes, it’s quick.  We would have done it in 60 days or less if it had just been just us.  Is there something you should know? No. We just didn’t see a reason for putting it off for months or even a year.  Not our style. 

90 Days, are y’all crazy?

That’s debatable. I can neither confirm nor deny.

Are you going to do anything back here to celebrate?

Who doesn’t like to party?

Did you not read the checklist?!?!  44 days. To be fair, I wasn’t clear about that on the checklist.  No, we haven’t sent out invitations yet. Just chill. Still working out all the fine details like if there is going to be a slip’n slide and/or karaoke. 

Are y’all registered anywhere?

Ah, the most important question!  No.  We feel very fortunate in that we have had all of our needs and most of our wants met. In fact, I gave away most of my non-sentimental items when I moved out of my house earlier this month. Instead, we want to do something very different to celebrate our marriage. We’ve been working with the University of Montevallo to set up and endow a scholarship in the Social Work Program. Montevallo has always held a very special place in my heart and Lora is fond of the place herself. I’m a proud graduate of the program and I wouldn’t be where I am today without the many lessons I learned from my professors, instructors, and peers. 

How can I donate?

Great question!  We are currently working to get everything set up. That information will likely go out later next month, maybe with reception invitations.

Are you really going to try and run 500 miles for another fundraiser?

Where did this question come from? Who have you been talking to? Why would anyone in there right or even their wrong mind want to spend 10 days trying to cover 500 miles?  That’s like 50 miles a day for over a week! What would my soon to be wife say about this? Wait… how big is the belt buckle?

It better be bigger than this one.

I think I’ve answered enough questions for this blog post. Please join me again in 6 months when I still remember that I have this thing active. Until then, enjoy this wonderful music video from the 1980’s supergroup Europe.

Jeff Goes to the Fair

The question I have gotten asked the most over the last several years is some variation of “how do you run a hundred miles?”  My two go to answers are, “I don’t” and “one step at a time.”  I’ve grown to love movement over the last several years and it has become part of my daily DNA.  I’ve learned that movement is not as much about the distance, speed, or the time as it is about just the movement itself. I’ve adopted the mantra of one of my doctors, “Movement is medicine.” This past year, movement was where I found my solace when the world around me changed. It’s likely how I managed to keep my sanity. This might not have been entirely what the good doctor means by the motto, but he’s not wrong.

To occupy my time during the beginning of the pandemic last spring, I set some lofty goals because I felt like it was a great way to pass the time. I ended up blowing right past the physically-based ones and averaged just more than 8.5 miles of intentional movement a day over a four-month period.  A couple of those days, I went for more than 50k. All the hard work allowed me to beat my previous 100-mile time by almost 7 hours at last year’s edition of the Endless Mile. Unfortunately, I left some of my reach goals still on the table at the conclusion of the race. Since then, I’ve celebrated my victories and doubled down on some of my goals. Unlike years past, I did not hibernate this winter.  I kept on moving to get ready for my next race.  

The Endless Mile, 2020 (Cute Dog did not do the whole 105 miles)

On May 10th, I’ll attempt to step my game up another level as I will participate in my longest race yet: 3 Days at the Fair in New Jersey. However, there is one small caveat; I will not be doing the 3-day option. I will be doing the 6-day option instead. Another motto I’ve adopted is “Go big or don’t go at all.” I figured the best way to enjoy a vacation is by doing the same one-mile loop over and over again…for 144 hours. Before you ask, I’ve put a lot of thought and preparation into this process. In fact, this is my third stab at a longer multiday event. The last two were cancelled because of the pandemic. Looks like the third time is a charm for me, and I’m very much looking forward to the challenge.

Now that I’ve gotten your attention, I’m doing something different with this long event opportunity.  Instead of focusing on personal goals, I’m dedicating the event to fundraising and spreading awareness to a local non-profit that I hold near and dear to me: Shelby Emergency Assistance (SEA).  At SEA, the goal is to provide necessities (food, housing, utilities and medical care) to people in crisis and to help them achieve self-sufficiency. SEA does things a little differently. They go the extra mile to help clients establish budgets, seek educational goals, find better occupational opportunities, and make financial plans so they will feel more empowered and engaged within their community.

The range of people SEA reaches in their community is utterly expansive. It may be someone stopping to pick up school supplies for someone else in need or providing an Easter basket for their children. It could be providing resources to someone needing surgery or healthcare supplies or helping someone without power. It might be providing support for the homeless or for working parents who have had to stay home due to COVID or families who have babies in the NICU. No matter the circumstances, everyone is greeted and given the chance to talk with a social worker about themselves, their family, resources, advancement, and so much more!

My goal is to fundraise at least $10 for every kilometer I plan to cover during my “6 Days at the Fair” for Shelby Emergency Assistance. I aim to go at least 500 kilometers (roughly 311 miles).  That equates to $5000. There is no guarantee that I will make that distance. A lot of things can go wrong when you are doing anything distance related, but you can bet my nasty, swelling feet that I’ll keep moving until I can’t!

To make things interesting, a couple of friends came up with the idea of “donating for Jeff to run for you (so you don’t have to!)” and different levels of giving. So, I’m going to run with it…or maybe just walk! For $50, I’ll run/walk that 5k that you’ve put off.  For $100, I’ll do the 10K.  To keep things simple, $200 for the half marathon and $500 for the 50k. Of course, these are just suggested levels to spice things up, and any donation is greatly appreciated.  I don’t think I will have the time or the capacity to write about this journey while I’m in it.  Instead, I intend to do shout outs and videos along the way thanking those who give to Shelby Emergency Assistance through this fundraising campaign. You will get a firsthand look at my journey through this process. I hope you will join me in it by helping me fundraise for my great friends at Shelby Emergency Assistance.

Note: There is no marathon option because I don’t run marathons.

P.S. You  can click here, here, or here to donate today.  Please feel free to share this with your friends and family.


Losing Weight is Easy…

Losing weight is easy. It is being willing to make and maintain the changes in behavior to make it happen that it is the hard part. Now that you have fallen for my click-bait worthy headline, let me tell you about my weight loss/behavior change experience.  I felt the need to write this post because folks in my life kept asking me what I did to lose my weight. Do not get me wrong, I am very proud of the way I look and feel. I have been talking about getting back under the “Mendoza line” for years. This did not happen by accident, use of some gimmicky product, calorie counting, or by becoming a workout warrior. I simply changed my behavior.  In my last blog post I talked about goals and behaviors.  In this post I am going to walk you through my change in behavior process that led me to lose 45 pounds during an 8-month span. So, let me tell you my story the best way I know how, from the beginning.

August 2019

Looking back, I had a rough summer in 2019.  A couple of folks in my circles left this world in untimely manners.  I also turned 40 years old.  I started noticing my clothes getting tighter and had to go buy new jeans in a larger size. It was larger than I had ever bought before. My weight was starting to creep up towards the 235 lb. mark. At my height, that is not terrible, but it’s only good if I am about 80% leaner and looking to be the starting linebacker for the hapless Atlanta Falcons. I decided I needed to lose weight and wanted to get back down closer to the 200 lb. mark. August is traditionally the time of year I begin my rigorous training regimen for The Endless Mile in October. That is right folks, I spend less than 3 months “training” for a 48-hour run. I started getting my regular 10 – 15-mile jaunts in and even some 20 milers.  Here is the thing, when September rolled around, I was almost 240 lbs. and more than 32% body fat. I had not lost weight but gained weight – and it was not muscle. On a whim I decided I need to try something different: intermittent fasting.

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Weight loss from August 2019 – July 2020

Intermittent Fasting and The Fall of 2019

Intermittent fasting is one of those buzz words you usually hear from dieters. People do fast for many reasons and different lengths of time. I chose to start off with a simple 16/8 schedule (16 hour fast/8 hour eating window). To put it simply, I started skipping breakfast. From 7 p.m. at night until 11 a.m. in the morning, I fasted.  No meals, no drinks, only water and sometimes black coffee. I did probably 15 minutes of research before starting this new “diet” after Labor Day weekend. The word diet is a terrible way to describe this approach as it really was just a change in behavior.  I did not significantly change what I ate. The drive thru lady at Taco Bell still remembered my name and face, but I did get quick results.  I went from 237.5 lbs. to 227 lbs. during the month of September simply by changing behavior. This included a week long trip to Texas and Las Vegas where I ate like a king or at worst a minor noble.

At this point, I started doing a little more research in intermittent fasting and got some quick tips. I still did not take it all that seriously. However, I was committed to the change in behavior.  I did not sway much from the 16/8 routine unless it was special events, such as a 48-hour endurance race or my buddy Ash’s Midget Wrestling Birthday party. From September to the end of November, my weight continued to decrease.  It finally settled in around 216 lbs./ 25% body fat. by the end of November and pretty much held +/- 2 pounds of that until the end of February.  I got frustrated with the lack of progress. But instead of quitting my intermittent fasting I kept doing it.  I maintained my changed behavior. My body had a new set weight, but I just did not understand what that meant at the time.

Dr. Jason Fung and the Obesity Code

During Christmas break I made a trip to Atlanta to see my adopted second family. My change in appearance was noticeable and led to a discussion about intermittent fasting.  My friend Daniel recommended reading The Obesity Code by Dr. Jason Fung.  I immediately read it and found myself with a greater understanding of why I lost my weight and why it plateaued.  It is a great deep-dive book into why diets initially work and fail, and it is filled with a plethora of fact-based research to support his assertions.  In fact, most people would not enjoy it because of how dry and fact-based it is. However, the last chapter gives a couple of nuggets on how to make almost any diet work.  His basic conclusion is this: any diet intended for long term weight loss that does not include some form of intermittent fasting will ultimately fail. The minute you stop dieting or go back to your old behaviors the weight will begin to return.  It sounds rather simple, but it is true.  Fung’s rather thorough review of the research points to controlling how the body makes and uses glucose as the key to control weight.  Fasting gives your body the opportunity to burn glucose, or stored fat. He gives some other basic recommendations such as cutting out snacking and as much sugar as possible. This help keep the body from continually producing glucose stores. But I will not bore you with any more of the details. I will let the book do that for you.

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Body Fat % from July 2019 – July 2020

The Season of COVID

The last few months have presented a lot of change for almost everyone I know. I am no different, maybe with the exception that my work routine remained the same. However, my consequences around my life outside of work has changed dramatically. My weight hung around the 214 – 218 range from December through almost April.  I started to see some slight weight loss in middle of March as I began to get outside a little bit more and began exercising.  I literally did no running or walking from late October through March.  The addition of exercise got my weight moving in the right direction. In early April I did several 24-hour fasts that moved me off the set weight range I had been in for several months. Combined with exercise the weight got down to 200 pounds by the end of April.

In May 1st, I dropped down to below 200 pounds/20% body fat for the first time since leaving graduate school over 16 years ago. Over the past two months, I’ve logged over 640 miles of movement to complete a 1000K (621 mile) virtual race.  I honestly expected to drop another 15 to 20 lbs. during this period since I’ve averaged burning more than 4800 calories a day for the last two months. However, that has not happened.  My weight never dipped below 192 pounds and now sits around the 195 pound/18.5% body fat mark. This seems to be my new set weight.  My body continues to redistribute weight around my frame despite not having significant changes in weight or body fat.

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Body Fat vs. Lean Mass, September 2019 – July 2020

The Future

I currently feel like my weight is at a pretty good place and I want to keep it there. It’s been hanging out here for two months now.  I continue to do the 16/8 fasting schedule, but I am less of a stickler for it on the weekends. I still enjoy a good hearty breakfast from time to time. The one point I want to get across is that my weight loss was more a result of a change in behavior than anything else. I stopped eating breakfast and snacking. It was not until late Spring that I really began to add the exercise component into this equation. At this point I have lost around 18% of my body weight, but over 42% of my body fat. I want to get that body fat loss to over 50%.  Almost all my weight loss has been body fat and not lean mass. I know that if I want to maintain this weight, I must maintain my 16/8 fasting schedule. As I have mentioned throughout this blog post, my weight loss success was not the result of a diet, but a change in behavior.

Goals, Goals, Goals… (a quick update)

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Reaching for your goals can be tough… especially in a suit.

Way back in January, I made a brief blog post about why goals are so much better than resolutions.  I haven’t written anything for the internetz since.  I went as far as to include five realistic goals for this year. (I guess I can be thankful writing wasn’t one of my goals)  They are:

1.  Be more positive in everything I do.

2.  Eliminate all unsecured debt.

3.  Take another real vacation

4.  Run a half marathon this year

5.  Being Mario Mendoza

So how am I progressing on these goals?  Well, I’ve made progress on all goals and after this weekend, I should have two of them completely marked off the list.

1. Being more positive in everything I do

The first goal on my list is more subjective than objective and can be difficult to measure.  It is the most resolution sounding goal on my list.  I honestly haven’t found the best way to try and measure this goal. However, I wake up every morning and try and find the good in the world around me.  At the same time, I’m trying not to lose my objectivity when it comes to tough or problematic situations where being positive is not a realistic option.  When this happens, I try to focus my energy on finding a positive solution.  Often this involves asking myself the “miracle question” which is the key to Solution Focused Therapy. I’ve found it to be a tremendous help.  I actually used this approach in coming up with my short term and long term goals.

Current status:  On-going

2.  Eliminate all unsecured debt

I actually started making a concerted effort to eliminate all unsecured debt last year.  I’m very proud to say that I achieved this goal back in March.  It’s quite nice not having to pay interest on a credit card.  Now I’m actively starting to save all the money I was spending on paying off my credit cards to build a formidable savings account back up.  Then the next step after that is active investing…

Sorry goggles, not this year...
Sorry goggles, not this year…

Current status: Completed

3. Take another real vacation

I haven’t taken vacation yet this year.  I was tempted to take a ski trip, but I didn’t.  I’m pretty sure I’ll take a trip to the beach sometime in August.  If I could amend this goal, it would be to take an international vacation.  I’m working on that right now…

Current Status: In progress

4.  Run a half marathon this year

No caption necessary.  You can make up your own.
No caption necessary. You can make up your own.

My original plan called for me to run a half marathon sometime this far.  Right now I’m way ahead of schedule.  I’m signed up to run a half marathon this weekend in Homewood.  For those of you who have been paying attention, I’ve started logging some miles and distance the last several weeks.  I can thank the quicker than planned attempt at the half to my friends from the “Monday Runday” run group at Tin Roof.

Current Status: Soon, real soon…

5. Being Mario Mendoza

You’d think I would start shedding some serious pounds with as much running/working out as I have been doing.

What ludicrous speed may look like.
What ludicrous speed may look like.

I really haven’t.  However, my metabolism has definitely started to shift into ludicrous speed.  So I’m definitely eating more right now…  and I’m continuing to be Mario Mendoza

Current Status: Steady as she goes

So what does this all mean?  It’s about time to reassess and replace my completed goals with some new ones.   Like running, it all begins by putting one foot in front of the other…

A Year Later…

Yesterday it had been one year since my last surgery.  Trying to remember anything from the first few months following surgery are actually still foggy, but I remember almost everything from the day of the surgery.  I published my first blog post to this site attempting to explain things to some and clarify things to others.  If you have not read it, I recommend you click here before reading on or you might be a little confused.

So what is different a year later?  

Cosmetically, not much.  Unless you haven’t seen me in the last 15 years or so you wouldn’t notice really anything different.  My eyes tracking together has gotten better and that’s about it.

Mentally, everything is different.  The last 12 months I’ve my life have been the most interesting in my life.  To be honest, I only really remember about the last 10 of them.  The first two after surgery are really just a blur at this point.  For those of you who know how much I love my memory, its rather frustrating not being able to remember big chunks of two months of your life.  Before I get any further tangents, I’ll try answer some questions.

Why is everything “mentally” different? The world just looks different.  When things looks different, you perceive and process it differently.  In the past, things returned to “normal” several months after surgery.  This time it never did.  I can’t tell you if it is a good thing or a bad thing.  It’s just different.

Does this bother you?  It is more frustrating than anything else.  I’m not sure if it is the new “normal” and things are truly better or something is truly wrong.  I lean very heavily towards the new “normal.”  I feel like my peripheral vision is better and that things are better.  However, my mind is taking a lot longer to adjust to these changes.  Hence the reason why everything is “mentally” different.

What is “normal” to you and why would it have changed? or Why do you not remember much from after the surgeries? I had two separate eye surgeries within four months of each other.  After each prior past surgery I had periods of times to adjust and develop a new “normal.”  I don’t think I ever fully recovered or adjusted from surgery number six before I had surgery number seven.  So when I had both eyes operated on last December, it changed everything.

I don’t remember many details from last January and February, but what I do remember is everything being very different after the surgery.  It was like everything was “out of place” and things looked very “surreal.”  An good analogy would be it was like looking at the world through someone else’s glasses.  To be honest, it still feels very surreal right now when I start thinking about it.  It was like my mind was having a very difficult time trying to understand and process what it was seeing.  It’s gradually improved or either I’ve just gotten used to it.

Why would having eye surgery mess with your memory? We perceive the world through our senses.  Most people rely on what they see and what they hear the most.  Most of the way my memory functions is tied to sight.  Changing the way I see things also seemed to change the way I processed and stored memories.  It caused a “hiccup” in my process.  The mind is a powerful thing and has seemed to adjust to the new settings.

Are you done with surgeries? I don’t know.  Right now I don’t feel like the issues I’m experiencing are something that can be fixed with a scalpel.  I feel like they are cognitive.  I saw the world a certain way for 32.5 years.  I obviously feel like I see it differently now and I’m still relatively new to it.  For the time being, I’m sticking to my mantra of Patient Time.

What’s next?  Patient time… and a brand new season of Archer on January 17th!

If you have any questions feel free to post them in a comment or just ask!  Thank you for reading.

Week 6.5 Update: Doctor, Doctor! Give Me the News!

If this guy is a bit "off" I'd hate to see what his "on" looks like.

Yesterday was my 1 month post operation appointment… at six weeks.  Apparently, the inability to correctly count is a statewide phenomena in Alabama that continues to spread.  But I digress…  I was a little fearful going into this visit because things have been so “off” and that I have continued to have headaches every morning since surgery.  The last several surgeries the headaches have gone away by the middle of week two.  This time they’ve stuck around like an old, unwanted house guest.

This meeting with the doctor started off no different then any of the others.  They checked my vision and depth perception before I got to see her.  I complained of the headaches and made mention of their similarity to those I experienced over twenty years ago while undergoing eye therapy.  She examined my eyes and informed me that they are now nearly perfectly aligned.  It’s the best they have ever been.  She seemed extremely pleased with how this last surgery went.

She didn’t have an immediate answer for the headaches, but had several hypothesis about what is going on:

1.  The headaches are vascular in nature (Migraines)

I don’t think this is likely, but a possibility.  Headaches only really flared up after surgery.

2.  My brain is trying to fuse the picture, but currently unable to.

I wonder if this is what fused vision really looks like? It still doesn't explain why the Matrix sequels sucked. Never mind, I forget Keanu Reeves was in them.

The doctor’s reasoning behind this is the fact that my eyes are pretty much aligned for the first time in my life.  However, one eye is ever so slightly off.  The headaches may be coming from the fact that I’m unconsciously or involuntarily trying to correct the position of one eye to help achieve fused vision. This would explain the exhaustion and headaches every morning.  My mind/eyes are working over time trying to do something they have never done.  It is my hope that this is what is going on inside my head.  The real question is how do you tell yourself to do something it has never done in thirty-two plus years?

What aliens from Persei Omicron 8 might look like... (and a tribute to my brother's favorite response to my non-sense)

3.  Aliens from Persei Omicron 8 have implanted something in my brain.

This seems unlikely and sounds like something I made up to have an option three.  Yep.  Definitely something I made up…  In reality, it might be something else.  However, I’m only presenting you with two realistic options.

What Robert Downey Jr. might look like trying to act like an Australian portraying a black man in a mockumentary styled comedy.

Hopefully I will have some answers in the next month or so.  I’m tired of waking up feeling like pre-Iron Man Robert Downing Jr. every morning.  In the back of my head the words “patient time” are still being whispered…

A Pirate’s Life is Not for Me!

Its been awhile since I checked in, but I have some legitimate excuses this time.  I would like to thank everyone for your well wishes, thoughts, and prayers over the last several weeks.

I would be lying if I said the last three weeks have been enjoyable.  I would also be lying if I said I’ve totally hated the last three weeks.  The truth lies somewhere in the middle.  I would have written sooner, but issues with my recovering vision and perception have made typing a bit queasy at best.  Some of you are probably scratching your heads at that last statement so I will do my best to explain…

What Pirate Jeff might have looked like. Reports of his demise have been greatly exaggerated.

Every time I’ve had eye surgery they have worked on the muscles surrounding my eye.  Some of the surgeries have involved as few as one muscle in one eye where the most aggressive one involved both eyes and a total of six muscles.  This last surgery involved both eyes and three muscles.  She originally only planned on working on two muscles… one on each eye.  She made a judgement call to go ahead and work on the third muscle hopefully preventing surgery number eight.

However, the additional procedure caused me a great deal of stress as it initially made things much worse for me and not better.   Unluckily for me, the third procedure has taken a lot longer to heal (this is somewhat expected) than the other procedure done on the same eye.  This has kept my eyes from properly aligning which in turn has completely thrown my eyes and perception off.  For about a week and some change things with my vision were very much touch and go.  This in turn has led to lots of headaches and a very distorted, unreal world.  It gets beyond frustrating when things fail to make sense when you know they should.  For most people, their eyes are the primary way they perceive the world.  Mine are no different in that function.  In the end, the only thing I could do was wear an eye patch to keep my sanity.

Over the last four or five days things have started correcting themselves back to a more “normal” state.  This has been in part due to healing and my brain trying to accept “global re positioning” of the eyes.  In turn, I’ve started to try and avoid roadside ditches by losing the eye patch.  I honestly expected this surgery to be the easiest yet it has been the most difficult.  I’m not sure if it is because I’m older and more aware or my brain doesn’t like resetting itself.  Slowly, but surely, the lights are starting to come back on.  I’m trying to be positively optimistic that in the end, it will be much brighter than before.  But for now… I’ll wait, pray, and be patient.